Author: Boluwatife

You know that popular TikTok trend, “If I ever won the lottery I wouldn’t tell anyone, but there would be signs”, and then people would show off their little quiet luxury dream item. They’d zoom in on a spoon but once you look up that piece of metal you’d typically use to slurp your soup,…

If you know, you know. I actually have my own ‘didn’t go to Paris’ moment. Long story short, I had an opportunity to take a temporary job overseas at a very lucrative company (might I add). However, I turned it down, because I imagined I could be getting married within the period I’d be gone….

“Could never be me” – whew chile! Well, it was. More than once, actually. This is that thing we often say when we’re judging someone else’s situation from a safe distance. Scrolling past those wild Twitter threads or listening to a friend’s story and feeling that quiet superiority bubble up. I’d never tolerate that. I’d…

One time, I created a whole Instagram account, after years of not having one, just to watch a guy’s IG Live. We weren’t dating, but he mentioned it casually, and I took it as a breadcrumb worth following. I watched the live, engaged energetically, might I add (🤦‍♀️), then deleted the account right after. We…

Growth, as it turns out, sometimes looks a lot like telling the world about your worst moments…and laughing about it. Beforetheone started with a simple realization: I kept replaying old relationship stories in my head, but not the way I used to. Instead of pointing fingers, I started asking myself, ‘Where did I go wrong?…